I was reading Seeking Answers post a short while ago and thought this was a useful exercise. I thought it would be a good idea to do in my present relationship.
Name the top five things that I need to be happy in my relationship. Don’t think about it; just name five things off the top of your head.
1. acceptance
2. love
3. trust
4. affection
5. attention
I think they change, I think I need some things more than others now, and perhaps less at another time. I think my answers today might be different than my answers a few weeks ago or several days from now. I think love seemed to be the “be all and end all” when I was younger, now I want to be accepted as me first, because that’s been hard for most of the people I’ve loved. I know now that it’s ok to need attention and affection from my partner, even if that makes me “needier” than other people. I think sex in my head is tied into affection, but perhaps it should be separate. Security is a given if I feel I have those things above, so I don’t feel I need to specifically lay it out. It’s interesting because the more I think about it, the more I wonder how it could change.
Sex and affection have always been tied together for me. In my relationship now, I’ve learned partially to separate the two… but not entirely and only because AFFECTION is so plentiful!
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You inspired me.
Love
Sex
Affection
Passion
Attention
Yes, I guess I do separate sex from love and affection. Interesting.
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